6 Ways To Check In On + Support Your Asian American Friends
In light of what just happened recently, in addition to all the Asian hate crimes happening on a daily basis, my heart has started feeling a little heavier these past few days.
I find myself often drifting away from my work every morning to think about what new hate crimes will surface again in the news. Or the ones that go unreported. As I continue seeing the violence and brutality happening everywhere, I start to wonder if the line ‘another day, another hate crime,’ in fact, hold true to its meaning.
Every day I’m walking around the streets of New York City, commuting on subways, and by habit, I’ve found myself lowering the volume of my AirPod Pros, turning on the Transparency option, and excessively looking around me at all times. In the back of my mind, I’m thinking: ‘What if I’m next?’ Or I look at the Asian grandmother sitting on the subway across from me: ‘What if she’s next?’
We shouldn’t have to think like this. It’s downright devastating that we’re having to mourn our fellow Black and Asian Americans over these hate crimes and at the same time, wonder if we’re possibly the next victim of another unimaginable hate crime.
The reason for this blog post today was to help anyone who is unsure of what to say or how to check in on their Asian American friends. There’s a lot of hesitation with ‘what if I say the wrong thing?’ or ‘what if they’ll get upset at me instead?’ And even though these thoughts are valid, I’d advise thinking past those thoughts and focusing on listening to someone’s story or validating their feelings during these times.
Scroll down for a few ways to reach out to your Asian American friends in a way that acknowledges their pain and lends support.
I wanted to also include this in here — this is the official GoFundMe for Yao Pan Ma, a victim of a horrific act of violence here in New York City.
Yao Pan Ma, 61, was collecting cans alone on April 23, 2021 on the streets of NYC to support his family. An attacker struck him from behind, knocked him to the ground and struck him repeatedly in the head. Mr. Yao Pan Ma was found unconscious on the curb. He currently remains unconscious in a coma. The GoFundMe was created on Mr. Yao Pan Ma's behalf with authority from his family. All funds will go directly to his family.